This was Lisseth. Her husband, Jose, called the mother of his child “fat” after she went up to a size 24. One time he even called her an ‘elephant’.
When Lisseth got pregnant, she started gaining weight. And after the pregnancy, that continued to happen. Her husband Jose started to bully her, and continuously called her fat. Her self-esteem was completely shredded. “I’d try to show affection in bed, but he’d turn over and go to sleep. I repulsed him and cried myself to sleep,” Lisseth said.
During and after the pregnancy, they would both eat unhealthy fast food. It didn’t affect Jose’s weight, but it did affect Lisseth’s. “I’d catch Jose looking at me in disgust. As I ate my dinner on the sofa, I’d hear him mutter ‘fat girl,’ as crumbs bounced off my belly,” Lisseth said. “It started with little digs, but soon it was cruel jibes. I was desperate to be the curvaceous hourglass girl he had fallen for, but I had no willpower or self-esteem to diet.”
“Jose wouldn’t show me any affection and food became even more of a friend,” she said. “The words made my stomach flip and I hit an all-time low. Food became the only thing to give me a moment of happiness. I was eating around 4,000 calories a day.”
“I got hold of his phone and found myself scrolling through texts, and hundreds of incriminating texts littered his inbox. I felt disgusted, but something changed in me. When his key turned in the door that evening I pounced and told him what I’d found,” she said. “He didn’t deny it and told me it was my fault as I was so fat. He told me I’d always be ugly. I was devastated, but determined. This man would never hurt me again.”
“The weight started to drop off me. I felt great, my clothes were so baggy I had to buy smaller sizes,” she said.
As for Jose, he said, “One of the reasons we split up was because she was very fat and that was the thing that made me go with another woman, I regret what I did.”